It's BURNING my feet.............

This week is spring break the girls are out of school, so they are getting time spent on them, which only means the TODDLER is not getting all the time spent on her.  But we all know that the best thing is the need to feel sorry for herself. So she has decided to sit in her room ALL DAY. Only to come out every few hours to tell her dog how no one will talk to her, and how depressed she is that all she can do is stay in her room. BLAH BLAH BLAH!!!!!!! Well, I have been ignoring it all week, she stays in her room until "B" comes home form work and then she is all chipper, and ready to eat the meal I cooked, and watch the new with just him. That is not a time that I am welcome in the room. Which is fine in her eyes, because I should be cleaning up the mess from dinner anyway. (which I am). Then around 10PM it is a big seen to watch her kiss her Dog and go to bed, because I have come in to the room. Well, I guess she wasn't getting enough attention. Today she made her first cup of coffee, and proceeded to dump it out because it tasted funny. Then she made another, only to get in her room and spill it all over the bed floor and walls........... It does really blow my mind how so many responses are of a TODDLERS mind!!!!!! instead of cleaning off her feet and ask for help, she stands in the coffee and starts yelling and crying. The YELLING and CRYING like when a Toddler drops the sucker in the dirt! I walk in her room, and see she is just standing in the HOT coffee, and crying that her feet are HOT and BURNING!!!!!! Really the coffee is not even hot to your touch after all the sugar and cream she puts in it..... OKAY, of it IRRITATES me, I don't really know what gets me worse, that her room is disgusting and now I get to clean it, or that she is not moving from the coffee that she says is burning her.....
I do wish I could just go through my days, leave what she says and does with her, and not let them spend time in my head! I just seem to take it all to personal! I don't like the way she treats her son, and our girls! I don't like how I am to be on call to help her 24/7 but never get anything out of it, I would love to work, but I know I can't because she need constant care. I don't like that I can not have MY family at our house without it being a big deal!!!!!!! Really I don't like that everything is ABOUT HER!!!!!!!!!!!

The NEED for me!!

It's has been a bit since I have written, I guess the need for quiet is more important, than listening to the screams in my head. My Toddler is not going to change, I do understand that, she is NEVER going to want to be in our house, NEVER want to get to know her younger 3 AMAZING Grand~daughter, and she is NEVER going to want to be nice to me. With that understanding, I just tried to do what needed to be done and stay away from her when ever possible, not go into Doctor's visits (let them try and figure out how to help her),  NOT interact in conversations with her, NOT ask how she is doing, feeling, needing.......
Try to just keep everything as level as possible!!!
Last week it was "B's" Birthday. That being said it is VERY HARD to do, I tried to figure out a GREAT gift for my husband.  I worked on in for weeks, planning for him to go see "N". It is for "N's" Birthday also, they haven't seen each other of over 2 years and it is time.  The PROBLEM you ask, well "N" is the ONE and ONLY in the TODDLERS eyes, and she feels she should get to go! The WHOLE Birthday back fires and here we go, my nice gesture of doing a loving thing for my Husband, turns into a HUGE guilt trip that we are leaving the TODDLER out. OMG !!! REALLY, he should be`able to have 3 days to spend with his daughter!!!!!!!!!!! Besides the fact the neither "N" OR "B" would be~able to care for the TODDLER!!!!! and the ROLLER COASTER is headed down.........